THE ART OF IDENTITY:
ACTING OR GENUINE
Hello, I am Valerie! THEE BE AUTHENTIC TACTICIAN
We live in a world filled with plants and animals in an array of shapes, sizes, colors, and functions. However, there are two occasions when an animal will change. One of those reasons is to blend in with its environment when sensing danger. The other reason is when stalking its prey.
Like the animal kingdom; humans come in different shapes, colors, and sizes. They too will change to blend in with their environment but for completely different reasons. Why? When we were young it was to fit in with the “cool kids”. Those cool kids can be jocks, cheerleaders, bullies, and gang members. Later as adults it becomes about titles, money, power, and position.
Eventually, there comes a time when we become aware of our inability to maintain the charade. Life begins to challenge who we are and places a demand for the real person we are to manifest. We call this an “identity crisis”. If we are unable to ground ourselves; we can become depressed, insecure, have anxiety, and become hopeless. Without relief some become addicted to drugs and or alcohol. If this continues, we can lose employment, family, and friends.
I remember when I went through this phase of my life. I was in my thirties and lasted until I was fifty. It was then that I decided to no longer live my life in the darkness of depression, anxiety, and hopelessness. I started challenging myself to stop doing anything on automatic. I made a firm decision about who I was, what I wanted, and set goals to get there. It has been a journey, but I am so glad I did it! I have peace, clarity of identity, and purpose.
Now it’s your turn to take the journey! Purchase a notebook and a good writing pen. First, began writing your thoughts early in the morning at lunch and before bed. At the end of the week read over your entries and look for patterns of behavior that need to be challenged and change them.
Until next time remember …. IT’S TIME FOR THE REAL YOU TO MANIFEST.
“I think every person has their own identity and beauty. Everyone being different is what is really beautiful. If we were all the same, it would be boring.”
** Tila Tequila **
Valerie P. Gilchrist
Valerie is the founder and featured speaker of Esther’s Purpose. She is well known for her ability to draw her audience in, connect to their pain, and compassionately equip them to recover.
As a conference speaker, Valerie is a skillful communicator who uses the power of words to paint pictures of her subject matter, takes you on a journey, and closes with an illustration to complete the encounter in order to cover all of the different learning styles of those in her audience.
Valerie believes that communities survive when families thrive. To that end, as a speaker, Valerie focuses on unmasking and healing the hurts caused by the issues of life that hinder this process.
Valerie began holding her Esther’s Purpose Conferences in 2014 in order to demonstrate how and why our lives have been affected by the issues of life and passed on from family member to family member; then spreads out to neighborhoods, work environments, communities, and subsequently our nation. Her audience experiences a visual display of the transference of the struggles of life and its effects. She then instructions them on how to peel back the layers of hurt and rejection, get back to their original self, and begin again in order to live life to its fullest.
Valerie’s conference provides that much needed safe place for her audience to stop being strong, unmask, feel hurt, heal, and recover.